Only Jesus has the authority to judge us. It is He, the light within, who is judging you, but you don't like what He is telling you about yourself.
You want to transfer the responsibility for the judgment to another person. But another person, no matter who it is, doesn't have the authority to judge you.
So don't you fault the person who speaks truth. Truth doesn't originate with the speaker. The voice you hear is God's; the words you hear are from the Holy Spirit; and the judgment you feel is from Jesus.
Better to praise God you're feeling that judgment. It's your wake-up call. Because Jesus says in John 5:24, "Most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life."
Flip Him off and your judgment will be condemnation. Your resurrection will be of everlasting condemnation. If you think judgment now is stinging, it can't compare to an eternity without the light of God in you.